The Heart of Fatherhood: Breaking Cycles and Building Futures

[00:00:03] Speaker A: We gonna elevate Kevon and Powers. Mister 80 20. [00:00:08] Speaker B: Cy. [00:00:09] Speaker A: What up, though? Let's get into it, y'all. Yeah, it's time to pick up your sword in impact the culture. Get in your word in, build up. [00:00:15] Speaker B: The soldiers, call on Jehovah. Don't know if you know, but mindsets. [00:00:18] Speaker A: Will affect the direction you go, bro. [00:00:20] Speaker B: Family. Hey, it's the elevator mindset podcast after a short hiatus for good reason. We'll get into it here in a few minutes, but we're back. It's your boy, Cy. [00:00:33] Speaker A: What's up? And it's your boy, Kevon Lee. [00:00:35] Speaker B: That's right. Mister Kevon Lee. Mister. Hey, we know we've been gone. I know a couple people been asking, you know, when we're coming about with a new episode, but we're gonna really get into why there was a delay in recording. Not only has this man been super busy, but he has some news to share with the. With our, with our listening public. So I'll let you share because I'm not going to tell you news, man. Tell the people where you've been while you've been incognito, man. [00:01:09] Speaker A: First of all, I've been all over the place. But other than that, man, you know, your boy is a father now, so I look a little different. I might got a dad bod now, but. But yeah, man, it's amazing. We gonna get back. We're gonna get more into it in the episode, but it's definitely amazing. [00:01:27] Speaker B: So how was the little bundle of joy and the misses doing? [00:01:33] Speaker A: They're doing amazing, man. She enjoys motherhood. I catch her crying a few times. Matter of fact, I catch her cry at least once a week, talking about how she feels fulfilled, how she has a husband, how she has a beautiful baby and that this is like true happiness to her, you know, other than having, God, having this. And she even told me, I think it was last week, or it might have been earlier this week, how. But she was taught that growing up that she had to be by, because she's 23. By the age of 23, she got beaten. Her career, she gotta be doing it. She got me doing that. And she says she chased all of that, right? She chased all that beating, career, she got a master's degree. But that didn't bring her anything close to having a family. Like, you know, like, that didn't bring her to happiness as close as her having a family. [00:02:22] Speaker B: No, it's understand. Understandable, man, because things really don't fulfill us, right. And honest, honestly, it's the culture that will have you think that you have to do all these things in a chronological order. But, you know, God works on. We work on chronological time. God works on Carol's time. [00:02:43] Speaker A: Mm hmm. [00:02:44] Speaker B: K. Rose means the opportune time, right? So God always does things in the opportune time if you allow him and let him lead you and guide you. And honestly, it's. It's, you know, sad that, you know, we have this clock in our head, right? So my time, I think in my time that everything should work the way I want it to work. But God knows what's best, because what's so dope about God is he created time. He stepped out of time so he can go from the beginning to the end and in between, and he can. And he can move the chess pieces like they need to move as he's analyzing what's going on with your life. That's why he says, before, before you were born, I knew you. I predestined you. So he can make those moves at any point given, at any given time based on our needs, if we allow him to do it. And that's the other thing about him, is, like, he allows us to do what we want to do about free will, but if we acquiesce to what he wants, man, it's just the best, best timing of all. So, man, I'm happy to hear that. I'm happy to hear the. About the bundle of joy. How many, how many, how many pounds and how many ounces. [00:03:55] Speaker A: Yeah, man. So she was actually born on her actual due date, and she came out six pounds, six and a half. So six pounds 8oz right now. She. I think she's about ten pounds right now. So she's definitely eating, definitely keeping us up at night, definitely keeping us busy, but it's all joy. It's all. It's just amazing. And she's starting to get to around that age where it's funny because she only about seven weeks, but where she's smiling at you and she smiles at different reactions and things like that. So, yeah, man, just seeing her is. Cause I have a daughter is absolutely amazing, because, I mean, other than her not looking like me at all, she look all the way like her mother. But at the end of the day, man, it's still a blessing just to see my wife in the role of a mother and really enjoy it, because, bro, if I'm being honest, man, I look around and I see other people who are 23, 24, our age, and stuff like that. They have children, and they don't even look happy, man. They seem like it's the worst decision of their lives. And, you know, I'm so happy that she says one of the best decisions of her life, you know, being a mother, right? Because, I mean, that's what the Bible ordained us to be, you know, husbands and fathers and mothers and wives, right? And then it's so essential for a man and a woman to become husband first before husband and wife first, before you become, you know, a father and mother of a child. [00:05:30] Speaker B: Well, that's dope, man. It's beautiful that you got that experience. Beautiful that you're enjoying fatherhood. So, yeah, let's. Let's dig into fatherhood a little bit today because I think that is a really interesting topic, especially from, you know, us. You know, I could say both of us originally probably didn't have the best fatherhood figures, although I could say that my stepdad, he stepped in my life around four and a half, five years old, and he gave me some siblings of direction. But then, first couple years, I definitely didn't have a father and involved in the life. So I definitely, you know, can understand how that can shape your life in ways. So I am interested to see, like, what's your viewpoint on fatherhood? I think I already kind of know it. I want you to kind of share it with the, with our elevated mindset audience. Like, you know, what fatherhood means to you. How has changed you, and, you know, what do you feel like your biggest area of growth in regards to fatherhood is concerned? [00:06:46] Speaker A: Man first of all, fathers, there's a depreciation in fathers. There's a. There's a shortage in fathers. Man. Um, before I even continue, I was at this speaking engagement today, and I'm speaking to the students, right? And there's about four black. So there's about 15 students in there, and four of them was african american like me. And so I gave them the statistic about how 70% of African Americans don't have the father in their home. And then, so I said, okay, let's see if those statistics are right. And I know it's just only five of us in there, but I went down the line, I said I didn't have my father in the home. Boom. I asked the first kid, he said he locked up, so he in prison. Second kid, he live in Vegas, so he not home. Third kid, well, he left when he was away, when I was a child, and a fourth kid said that my father's in LA, so none of the fathers are at home. And so the most important thing about, for me, being a father is being present. I work a lot. I'm gonna just be honest, I work a lot. But when I'm actually at home, I am very intentional and deliberate about being present not only to my child, but my wife. Because that, that's, that's most important. Let's just get out the way. That's most important, right? Because if me her don't work, our child is going to feel that. Our child is gonna get the repercussions of bad marriage or spouse's fight or whatever the case may be. Our child is going to feel that. And so, yeah, man, it's so important for us to be present. And I remember my wife told me this, and she told me this while she was pregnant because I was working so much and I wasn't present at home. And I'm going to be completely honest. She looked at me and we was talking and she said, I'm already preparing myself to be single. I'm already preparing myself to be a single mother. And when she said that, she didn't say it in a way that she was gonna, like, leave me. She said in a way that, okay, even though you're here, you're not here. You always working or you're always thinking about something else. And so I had to shift my mindset because to me at the time, okay, I'm out here working. You know, we're living a great life, paying every bill. I'm doing what a man is supposed to do. But, yeah, I wasn't given the emotional side of it, right. Like the loving part of it. And so I had to switch my dynamics and understand that. Okay, all right, Kevin, you could do all that. But why you at home, make sure you're present. So I take a big emphasis on that now. And especially with my child, right. I make sure to tell her every single morning, every single time I see her in the evening, you're beautiful, you're love, you're amazing, you're phenomenal. Don't let anybody tell you different. I'm telling, and she's seven weeks. She don't understand what the heck I'm saying. I'm a scared ass so much in her life that when a little ugly boy try to say you're ugly, blah, blah, blah, she gonna be like, I don't care what you say, cuz my daddy say I'm beautiful, I'm smart, I'm amazing, I'm phenomenal. And so it's just doing that, man. And what I love about being a father is that this is my time to break the generational cycle of fathers not being in lives. Father is not being educated, whatever the case may be, fathers not telling the children that they love them. I want to break that generational curse. I want my child to grow up knowing that she is loved by her father. Because, man, I see it so many, so often, a lot of kids, especially who are black, don't have their fathers. And I never want my child to be like that. And so it's an opportunity of a lifetime to be a great father because I truly believe, you know, the. My biggest mission now is being a great husband and a great father. [00:10:20] Speaker B: That's good, man. That's good. I love it, man. It's important, right. As you grow older and you take on more responsibility now, you really are taking a leadership role within your family, right? And so now what you're doing is you're taking on becoming a priest, a prophet, and a king in the house. So, you know, you have to lead the family spiritually. You have to provide divine guidance for your family, for your daughter. Try to help her not fall into the pitfalls of the world, which are unfortunately kind of hard to navigate in today's society because, you know, they probably spend a little bit more time away from home than we get to spend with them because, like you said, we're working, we're doing things. And, you know, the influence of the outside forces, no matter how much you try to stop it or control it, it's hard to do, especially if they're going to, like, a public school or private school, they're going to assimilate to the culture that they're around. Right. And culture is basically the way that people think in the way that people act. So you got to, you got to establish that culture now of, you know, how she thinks, how she acts. You know, give them that good, solid foundation so when they get ready to go into the school and they see different things, because one thing we learn, you know, as you get older, some people were raised on love. Some people were raised on survival. There's a difference between the two and how they interact with people, right. So it's definitely, you know, a lot on the plate becoming a father, especially as a black man, because now you got, especially as a leader, right. Because you're a leader now. You got to work up, worry about, you have a purpose, you have a perspective. You have to be a prayerful man, and then you have to be persistent. And how you lead your family, because, you know, the enemy don't sleep. So we can't sleep. You know, I'm saying no, straight up. [00:12:26] Speaker A: Yeah, man. You know, and that's how they attack the home. They'll attack the father first. They'll attack the father, the husband first. And then because he is the leader and, you know, if he becomes the. The enemy, then his whole household, you know, is damned to help. But, yeah, man. Like, it's a huge obligation because my wife truly believes, like, okay, I submit to my husband, and that's how my wife, she reads the Bible. She understands the Bible, and that's what the Bible tells us to do. But what the Bible also tells us is that as husbands, we have to love our wife like God. Like Jesus loved the church and he died for the church, meaning that we have to be willing to die for our wives. When I say that, I mean do whatever it takes to make sure that we have a great household and we're. We are building, like, a great legacy, right? Because it says, like, a wise man leaves an inheritance for his children's children. Children. And when I say that, I'm not just talking about money, I'm talking about values. Talk about the way that they think, their morals, the way that they go around this world. I don't want my. I don't want my child to think that, oh, she can make money, and she could from the streets, but I don't want that to be her option. I don't want her to think that, okay, it's okay to drink heavily. I don't drink at all. My wife don't drink. You won't even see drinking at home. I don't want her to think that, oh, I could smoke. I don't smoke. My wife don't smoke. And are those horrible things. No, but those are things that deter us from our destination. And I realized that a long time ago that, okay, if I don't drink or smoke and I stay around, I stay around the right people instead of the wrong people, I will get to my destination faster than if I was doing that. And although people do that, they get to their destination. They not getting there as fast, as quickly as God wants you to get there. And so, yeah, man, it all starts with us because man being. It's a privilege to be a father, first of all, let me just say that it is an absolute privilege to be a father. And at the end of day, this child, she's not mine, she's God's. She's got child. God just trusted me as a father and a man to put her in the right direction. And so. And, you know, going through life, it's easy to forget that, right? You get caught up with work, you get caught up with, you know, other life things, whether passing, whatever the case, your own mental health, man, your own goals. But we have to be very. And I'm gonna say this again, I say this all the time, intentional and deliberate with raising our children, because, bro, I'm telling. And I'm in the schools. I'm a mentor. I'm in the schools. And I'll be looking at these students like, what in the heck do you think? Like, what. What's wrong with you? And I'm gonna just be honest. These students now, bro, these middle schooler middle schoolers be putting me and my team through the ringer. And I'm just saying, man, but let me tell you what I noticed. So I have a middle school that's in a very porous area, right? I have another middle school that's in a very affluent area where their parents are successful. And it's like night and day. It's, like, down two different spectrums. You could tell the maturity level, the. The way that they think, the way that they talk, the way that they act is totally different. And so. So, you know, that's why. Because at the end, they may is bigger than me. That's why I want to go get my education. It's bigger than me. I don't like school, but I want to see. I want to show my daughter that, you know, it's possible at the end of day, it's bigger than my wife and me. So. And as long as we, you know, lead with a mindset of that. That, okay, we're doing this for our daughter. We're doing this for our next generation, then we can leave that selfishness behind, even when we get caught up with real whatever in the world. [00:16:20] Speaker B: Yeah. Yeah. That's interesting. And that's dope to see that you're giving back, that you understand the importance of who you are and what you bring to the world. It's interesting that you say that, because in this, guess not a mastermind, but this group and what they were talking about right now is understanding the trinity in relationships. So if you don't understand the Trinity, you really don't understand how to relate to people or how it works in relationships. Because if you look at God the Father, God the Son, God the Holy Spirit, each one of them work in conjunction with each other. They communicate, right. Jesus submitted to the Father, the Father submitted to the Son, the Holy Ghost, Holy Spirit submits to both of them. So it's very kind of, it's like a, just like a piece of a piece to the puzzle that fits together, right? And he brought everything into exist existence, right? God created its relational. So everything is created on a relational relationship is about communication, cooperation in harmony. And that's how the Holy Spirit works with, with Jesus and God. And so in your marriage, if you don't have that same level of communication, of harmony, of cooperation, things don't work, right? So if you don't understand how that works, you don't really understand how it works in relationship. And the beauty of it is how you saying, you said that, you know, that your wife understands her role, you understand her role, she understands your role. And you guys work in harmony, harmony to fulfill that role, right? And you know, a lot of times people think, well, I'm the man. I have to submit to my wife. I mean, my wife submits to me and I don't submit to her. That's really not true, right? Submission goes up and it goes down. Good leaders submit. Submit to the subordinates because the subordinates or not the subordinates, but the, somebody on the team may have a great idea that's better than the idea that you have. And if you're so stuck in your ways, you won't be able to understand what the idea is doing and how it can enhance your skill set, right? And how your helpers, one to another, she's there to see your blind spots. You're there to see her blind spots. So ultimately you guys can raise a productive and successful God fearing child in the world, right? So it's an amazing thing just to hear that, right? And even as, you know, as a father and a husband, like, your role is to have that spiritual authority, provide that moral guidance, and then also have that protective care. And if you embrace those roles, you typically set your children up for success. And in a lot of two parent homes, sometimes they do that. You know, in certain areas they do that fairly well versus other areas where we don't. But it takes people like you, like me, like other people that we know to break out of that box, right? And then they try to make a change because it just takes one person to spark an entire movement. So, yeah, just kudos to you for the work that you've been doing in the community, in the schools. You know, just seeing somebody looks like them that has come from something that they've not come from will come from something that they've come from. And seeing you be able to like, do something with yourself and you give them vision, right? Because if you don't have a vision, you don't know where you can go, right? The only vision that you see is a drug dealer. That's what you aspire to be. But if you see other visions of people that look like you, that are successful, that are doing different things that you never even thought possible, like, I'm pretty sure them kids would be like a public speaker, a motivational speaker. Like, I never knew you could do that, right? You know, because nobody. [00:20:25] Speaker A: Exactly. Let me tell you, man, I walked up in there and I straight up told her, I said, don't get it twisted. Like, you see the tattoos, you see the chains, but don't get it twisted. I got two degrees. I'm an entrepreneur. I'm in the community. Like I, and I came from the hood. Let's just be. I came from the hood. There's people in my family in prison, gangs, own drugs. Let's not get it twisted. I'm not going to come in here and act like I'm not somebody who I am, right? And so just having that authenticity with them, but also I'm able to relate with them because I know what they're going through. I know how it is to not have anybody believe in you. I know how it is to think that the only bro, literally, I was 13 years old and I went to my grandma and I said, hey, grandma, um, this is kind of weird for me, but you're always here. She said, what do you mean? I said, how do I say this? When are you going to prison? He said, baby, I've never been to prison and neither do you. And so it wasn't to the age of 13, Carlton, when I thought everybody went to prison, I learned, I thought, because I grew up around that, and if you grow up around that, you become that and you think of that. And so if everybody around me going to prison, I'm thinking everybody go to prison, just like everybody around me has to go to school k through twelve, I'm thinking everybody goes to prison because everybody around me goes to prison. My brother, right now, he's in prison for life without parole. That's what I grew up around. [00:21:53] Speaker B: Wow. Wow. So that's interesting that you say that, man, because this is really what it's about. It's like changing the narrative, changing the vantage point of what people know is possible. And that's crazy to think that you think you know, but it's not crazy when you think about it because if that's all, you know, that's what you expect, right? You know, if you grow, and that's why in certain areas, if you, you know, everybody's a gangster, right? Because that's all that they grew up around. They didn't see anything else. They just knew, like, that's the, that's this succession of life. That's the maturation of life. I grow, I'm here. I'm a little homie. Hopefully I'll become a big homie if I make it. But that's. That's the amazing thing about being a father, because we don't really understand how influential being a father is in, in the life of your kids, because you are, like the first person that they like, the first man that they love for a girl, right? So you set the tone of how they want it. They should be treated. You know, you set the tone for discipline and how a young man reacts to authority. If you don't set a baseline for standards and rules, then they go through life believing there's no standards and rules. So it's very, very important. You know. You know, people might say I'm crazy when I say this, but I really think that, that a dad is actually the most vital part of a family unit, because we're supposed to provide, protect, and lead like christ leads, right? [00:23:32] Speaker A: Come on. [00:23:33] Speaker B: So that's that air, that's that sacrificial love, that. That sacrifice, that leadership. And if you don't get it, it's like. Like a ship without. Without a sail. It's not going anywhere, man. [00:23:48] Speaker A: Um, in 20 years, if my daughter says I had an amazing father, he was loving, he was present. And my wife say, man, he was loving, he was present, he was protective over us, like, he did what he was supposed to do in 20 years. If they say that, well, when they say that, I'm gonna make sure that I'm there and I'm doing that, then my mission to complete, I did everything that I needed to do, man. So I don't care about the medals that I get because I'm getting a lot of them. I don't care about the degrees. I don't care about none of that, because all that stuff, man, is visceral. That's what everybody see me as. You look on my social media, and, of course, I'm a portray. Portray myself as a amazing person. But not only that, I do tell my flaws on social media, but the thing about it is, like, you look at my social media like, man, look what he's doing in community, blah. All this I want to work as hard as I do in the community, in my household, because how am I going to expect to change the world if I can't change my household? Everybody else see me as this golden boy. But at home, I'm horrible. At home, I'm not a God fearing husband. I'm not somebody. A God fearing man. I'm not somebody who my wife respects and love. I'm not somebody who my child even wants to be around. I don't want to be that. Now, if to the world I look horrible, but at home, I look amazing. They love me. I'm cool with that. Because at first, the home is your first ministry, period. The home is your first ministry, and then everything outside of that is everything outside it. But at home, if you get that right first, then everything else will fall in place. [00:25:22] Speaker B: Yeah, I was actually gonna say that because, you know, you don't want to be that guy that's up ministering or Europe giving a motivational talk, and your wife happens to be in attendance, and she's sitting over there to the side with her arms folded. Right. You know, I mean, and people looking at, like, why is wife looking like that? So, you know, and I think Jeremy has said it. When we were at the conference last year, I've heard it preached to several times, right. Like that ministry, first love begins at home, then spreads abroad. You know, it does no good for everybody. Love the world that love you and the people that you are supposed to take care of and be over their well being and their development, and they don't get that same level of love. And that's, you know, really, it's. You have to be. I say I have to be careful with that. Because when you have, like, things that God wants you to do, right, it's easy to get distracted and doing the things that God wants you to do. And it's easy to forget, like, I got to take care of these right here first, right. Because those are the most important. So it's really, you have to be careful because sometimes you can do the right thing the wrong way and really, you know, do more damage than good. And so it's just being careful and mindful of those things. Right. You know, like I said, you have to be the king of the house. You got to exercise authority, you got to provide protection, and you got to care for the well being and those under your care. So you got to give them a good level of care so that they can flourish and become the best they can be. And that's what leadership is. Right. As leaders, as men, as godly men, we should be empowering our family and our wives and our kids to become the best version of them, right? You should be able to pull or I should be able to pull the best parts of my wife out of her that she didn't know was there or help her see what's there and then empower her to be able to go out and do that, right? [00:27:31] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:27:32] Speaker B: And even with your kids, right, to know how to provide good guidance, right. That proverbs wisdom to your child, right. To just tell them lean not to their own understanding. You know, acknowledge God in all their ways and he'll direct their paths. Like, those are the things that we should be doing on a consistent basis. But also while we do the work on ourselves, which again, is. That's the sticky, you know, the gray area, right? Because you can get so caught up over here that this goes lacking. Or if you overhear too much, this goes lacking. It's like if you run too. If you run too many miles, you lose a lot of weight but you're gonna lose a lot of muscle. So you got to have a balance of running and lifting so you can maintain. Maintain that muscle or build on that muscle and still have that. That endurance to, you know, do the cardio. And that's like life, right? You got to be able to maintain both sides of the fence so you can keep that muscle and as well as have the endurance to go on. [00:28:35] Speaker A: So. So for. Cuz, you know, I'm new at this father stuff. I'm just seven weeks in, right? And I'm seven weeks strong. But what would you get? What would you say is like the biggest pivot or like in your fatherhood journey or something that you had to realize that, okay, Carlton, you. You gotta do this different. Like if. If you ever had a moment like that, what was it? [00:28:58] Speaker B: Yeah, I would say probably, you know, have older kids and then I have some younger, some younger children. And just the way that I raised them, I just kind of followed the blueprint that was laid out before me, right. I come from that seventies, eighties area, you know, where it was hard love, right. You know, you want a bad person, but, you know, probably didn't get hugged and kissed a lot or told that I love them, they love me. I know my mom loved me. I know my dad loved me. But didn't see a lot of the PDA, the affirmations, things that, you know, kids need, right? So just that pivot of learning kind of meet my children where they're at. Right. And not. People say this all the time. I treat all my children the same. You can't treat all your children the same because they're different people. I have twin boys. They're two totally opposite men. One is like me. One has more of his mother's tendencies. So the ones like, that's like me. I can be. I can. I'm on his head. Right. The other one, I got to be a little bit more strategic about how I talk to them. Right. So it's just learning your children's personality, meeting. Meeting them where they're at so you can pull the best out of them. Right. Because my. The older twin doesn't. Doesn't respond to the rah rah version of me, but the younger one does. My daughters, they don't respond to that. And really, I've honestly, I've gotten softer, especially with the last two girls, as I get noted. And I'll be. I'm trying to be more. More affectionate, more, you know, more displays of affection, more uplifting, you know, because in this day and time, you know, also, the kids aren't built like I was built. Right. You know, I'm saying I'm just a different generation, but. So that's the biggest pivot I've had to make, is just learning how to meet everybody at the level that they're at and figure out what buttons to push, so to speak. How many gets the best response. [00:31:06] Speaker A: Five of them things. Five. That's. Nowadays, that's a lot. Like, I don't know anybody, my generation, having five kids. [00:31:15] Speaker B: Nice lot. That's a lot. That's a lot. But I can't really, I say focus to his twins. [00:31:21] Speaker A: Okay? Hey, that's especially. That's a lot in California, cub, bro, we could barely afford ourselves. [00:31:27] Speaker B: Let me just say, I figure I feel. Yeah, that's. That's the biggest, biggest thing for me, right. Is just meeting them where they're at and then the other piece, right. Ain't no telling where it's gonna be, like, technology wise and what's going on with your daughter because she's just a seven week old. But just like, my older kids are just coming into the. To the cell phone, texting, chatting, social media. Age to now is where they're full blown. You know, we have to manage our nine year olds TikTok time. You know, all the things that they want to do, the kids want to do. Right. So it's just managing that to make sure that they are well rounded and they understand that what you see on social media is not real life. Right? Everybody, like you said, you always show the good sides of your life. Nobody shows the l's, right? They don't show these. They show the w's. They show these. They don't show these. So it's that. Right? And then just learning to understand, like, continually to evolve and elevate on my journey with Christ, because the more that I do that, the easier it is for me to kind of fall into that model of loving my wife, like the church and leading the family. It gets easier, right? To be more sacrificial, to be more understanding, to be more open minded, but also to be stern and be what's needed in this day and age. [00:33:01] Speaker A: Yeah. And. And again, Meg, just standing back from what we talked about at the beginning, we need stronger fathers like that. Because I remember, I don't know if we said this on this podcast, but when it comes to black people, you hear a lot. You hear this term a lot. Baby mama, baby daddy. Bro, I'm beyond. I ain't never heard a white person say that. I never heard a white person say, that's my baby mama. That's my. I've never heard it. Now, it might happen, but I've never heard it. And so that just shows right there, just by our language, by how our culture is, because in our culture, you know, people have kids outside of marriage, and they. And that's okay. I don't think it's okay. I think now if you do it, then you do it. But from what I believe in my standards, it's like, man, so much. It's so much better to have a kid in marriage, because when you have a kid in marriage, you have that foundation. Because some people have kids, and they not even say they don't live together. So now you're not even your kids like, where they live at, you know what I'm saying? And that's why it's important to wait. Wait to marriage. Because then that's how you get, um, early pregnancies, pregnancies in high school pregnancies, uh, in your early twenties that you like, unplanned pregnancies. Um, but, yeah, man, um, it is so important, you know, being. Being a father, it's. It's. Man, it. Honestly, I love it. It's so much fun seeing her. Seeing her develop, seeing her grow. I can't wait to see what her personality is. I feel like she's gonna be like her mama because she looked just like her, like, image of her mom. So give me that little side look, she'd be like this. Yeah, you got that for. You got that from your mama. But, um. But, no, it's going. It's gonna be amazing because, you know, as a parent, you get the opportunity and the privilege to basically mold your child right to the best of your ability. Now, you always have the outside influences, you know, when they get to. To get to middle school, they don't want to be like their friends or something like that, but that's why they have to have a strong foundation so they know where to go. And, um, it's just gonna. Yeah, man, I just came. I can't wait to see her. If she plays sports, be her games. If she does recital, like, she. She might be the next Adele, Beyonce. I don't know. I've got a voice come. Me. Me and my wife, we can't sing, but hopefully she can, right? [00:35:31] Speaker B: Somebody in the. Somebody in the bloodline can sing, because that's funny. Everybody, like my mom, my grandmama, they can sing, and they're musically inclined, but I'm more athletically inclined. [00:35:44] Speaker A: Same. [00:35:44] Speaker B: Can't sing at all. But, yeah, it's interesting, man. But I'll tell you this, right, you better enjoy this time, because you're gonna look up. She's gonna be a year old, and you're gonna look up, she's gonna be three, four, and then you're gonna. It's five, and next thing you know, she's in kindergarten, and then you'll be like me. Now you're looking up. And my daughters, and my youngest is going to the fifth grade, man, at ten years old. Yeah. My 15 year old, she's actually going. She's just finished her freshman year of high school. It's like, dang, boom, boom, boom. Time. Like, time waits for no man. Time flies. So you have to enjoy it and embrace it. And I would say, take, print plenty of pictures, you know, spend as much time, quality time as you can with them. Create memories. Get her a passport, take it to take her. Take her places. So no little knucklehead trying to take her to Vegas will impress her. [00:36:39] Speaker A: Hey, straight up, what you just said, man, was so profound. You said, time waste for no man. But I don't care how hard you. You think about it. Like, I don't care if you just look at the clock and say, you know what? This. I'm gonna make this clock slow down just a little bit. It's not possible. Time does not end in. Time doesn't speed up for nobody. It doesn't speed up. It doesn't slow down. It's not like something we could train for, like how we could train for a run. We could trade for a lifting a sport. And we become better at those things. Time waste for nobody. And so that. That's very. And thank you for that advice. You know, enjoy. Enjoy now, because I'll never get this time back with her, right? Her as seven weeks. Like, once she's eight weeks, that's it. She'll never was again. She'll never be this small again. Yeah, man, I'm taking pictures all the time. I'm taking videos all the time because I do want to remember this moment. And that's why I said, man, it's so great to be a father, a parent at this time, because we got access to our phones and we can literally record and take pictures of everything. I don't have one picture of me under the age of five. None. [00:37:44] Speaker B: Yeah, I got it. My mom has, you know, a couple here and there. I've seen them, got a couple of them. But, yeah, that's. That's the beauty of this age, right? That's the beauty of technology, is to being able to capture moments in time and be able to look back at them and think about what happened or what was happening with them. And it's so dope. Like with your iPhone now. They'll give you, you know, the memories. They got a time hop where, you know, to give you a year ago today, a year ago to today, two years ago. So it gives you steady doses of the past, right. Because those are precious memories, and you want to make precious memories with your kids, with your family. And the biggest thing is, you know, when your kids get older, you want to be the type of dad that they want to be around. Like, I know a lot of kids don't hang. They don't come hang around their parents. I can say that's a beautiful thing for me, is my kids. They were over Memorial Day, right? They came over. I put food on the grill. My two oldest that are still here, you know, we're here. Of course, one of my other son is in Tokyo, so he couldn't be here. They came, we put some food on the grill. We played with. They played games, and it was just, you know, great for the kids to be here. Right. And that's. That's what, like, is so great for me at this stage of life, is just being able to be around your kids, and they want to be around you. So evidently, you know, I did something, okay? [00:39:15] Speaker A: You did something, right? [00:39:16] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:39:20] Speaker A: That's why what was you cooking? What was your grill? [00:39:23] Speaker B: We did some turkey burgers to some. Some turkey links. They like turkey hot dogs. Yeah, we don't. I don't eat no ribs, man. I don't eat no red meat. I definitely don't do no swine. I just don't do swine, man. That's just me, man. I literally haven't had any red meat in probably 15 years, and probably pork longer than that. [00:39:47] Speaker A: Okay. I don't eat pork. But you had no rib eye. [00:39:52] Speaker B: I had no rib eye. I may have had. I may have had a steak a couple years ago when we went somewhere nice to eat, and that's really all, like, a steakhouse. And that's really all that they had, was steaks. But I don't. [00:40:03] Speaker A: You don't want to look in my freezer. [00:40:05] Speaker B: You do you, man. You do what works for you. I'm just saying I do what works for me. Right? So, yeah, I want to. You. You know, they actually. I read a book, and it's called eat right for your blood type. And, um, I knew my. I know my blood type, and so it gave me food groups that were good for. [00:40:30] Speaker A: I don't know what the heck. I'm not. Is that the common one? [00:40:34] Speaker B: I don't know. I think so. [00:40:36] Speaker A: I don't know what. [00:40:37] Speaker B: I just know mine from when I got shot, so. But I just knew it. And I actually, like. I used to have, like, allergies, like, really bad, but I was eating, like, you know, what everybody tells you to eat when you work out. I was eating grilled chicken, chicken breast, all the little foods I was eating, based on what conventional wisdom says, but my allergies were off the charts. Like, my nose would be, like, I look like the element. Elephant man in the face. Allergies. I promise you, bro, when I read that book and I implemented those changes, my allergies went away. [00:41:17] Speaker A: Mmm. [00:41:18] Speaker B: Like, I began to feel better. Like, everything just kind of fell in place for me. So I'm a. I believe in it, right? So I can eat. According to that book and all the research, I can eat turkey, salmon. I can eat lamb, and I can eat, like, bison. Other meats that I can eat. Can't eat. No, I can't eat shrimp. No chicken. No red meat. [00:41:43] Speaker A: Dang. No chicken. [00:41:44] Speaker B: Oh, wow. I honestly, I've never been a big fried chick. I really. I don't eat fried chicken. I was just from the south. [00:41:53] Speaker A: You don't like fried chicken? [00:41:54] Speaker B: I'm from Alabama. Like, my grandma used to eat chitlins. You know what chitlins are? [00:41:59] Speaker A: I'm from Mississippi. I know exactly what chill is. Are. [00:42:02] Speaker B: I never smell of a chitlin. Turns my stomach. [00:42:07] Speaker A: Yeah, this smell. The smell of Tory. Next thing you gonna tell me is you don't eat no sweet potatoes. [00:42:11] Speaker B: I eat sweet potatoes. I like sweet potato, sweet potato pie. I eat some black eyed peas. I eat greens. But I'm not. Yeah. I'm not eating no ham hocks. I'm not eating no oxtails. I'm not eating no okra. [00:42:30] Speaker A: But you eating that crumble cookie, huh? [00:42:32] Speaker B: I'm cut back on the crumble. [00:42:34] Speaker A: Okay, okay, okay. [00:42:37] Speaker B: I know it's time for me. Like, I. I go through the spells and then I get back on, like, my discipline, so I'm slowly getting back on my discipline. So crumble cookie. I bought my daughter one another the other day, but I haven't had one that not like I was eating them, but that's like me and my daughter's place, right? So, you know, we just always go there and I usually get her a cookie and then, of course, that looks good. Let me grab me one. Right? And that's even, like, with just the little things, like with your kids, like to just do stuff like that. She likes crumble cookie. We go to crumble cookie. You know, she likes ice cream. I don't eat ice cream, but I'll go get ice cream with her and sit down and, you know, we'll talk. So just a little things, right, to do. To do with your kids, to try to bond with them, to build a rapport with them, because I'm telling you, bro, they grow up so quick. And then next thing you know, they want to be going, hey, can I go to my friend's house? Hey, can I go do this? Hey, can I go to the game? So, no, no, we not see our. They already know that they're dating, man. We know we're not on that. They can do have one. They'd be sneaking to do it. But I'm, you know, again, it's just taking advantage of the things that she enjoys and I can find some enjoyment in it as well, just to, you know, spend time with them because the time goes so fast. And, you know, my oldest daughter, we talk. We're really close, but I don't see her. Like I would like to. We don't talk every day. Like I probably would like to. We might talk every other day or maybe talk via text. But, you know, she grown. She, you know, she living her life, right? And I was doing the same thing at 26, 27. [00:44:19] Speaker A: I mean, that's how it is, right? They grow up, and then they, like. Like how they always said that's why your marriage is so important, because when they. Your kids grow up, they gonna leave, but your wife will be here, and so you don't want to go 18 years without dating your wife. You don't want to go 18 years without showing affection, because then, by then, it's like, man, I don't even know this person. You change so much over the course of 18 years because you're not the same person that you married. You know, saying you grow, evolve all the time. [00:44:49] Speaker B: Things like, if you're the same person today that they were ten years ago, then somebody ain't growing. [00:44:55] Speaker A: Hmm. Something ain't right at all. Something ain't right, man. But, yeah. Yeah, man, this conversation is amazing. You know, talking about fatherhood. It's needed. You know, it's needed because, mean, right now I have one daughter, so I only got one shot at this. And I'm. And I'm trying to be a hundred percent. I'm trying to be like Steph Curry. I mean, he. Not 100%, but, you know, he lethal back there. Everybody. [00:45:25] Speaker B: I figured, but, man, you're ahead of the. But you're ahead of the curve, man. I. That's what I admire about you at your age. The. The mindset that you have is phenomenal, bro. And you, like, if you keep this up and you continue to go down this trajectory, man, it ain't no telling how far and how elevated you will be by allowing God to just kind of lead and guide you, right, because you're not the typical 23, 23, four year old kid that, you know, they just think about kicking it, doing what they do, having a good time. But you thinking about, like, creating a legacy, being a. The catalyst for growth in your household. And so that's an amazing thing, bro. So kudos to you for that, you know, continue to do that. Continue to lead and let God lead you and guide you, you know what I'm saying? Continue to work on being, you know, the priest, the prophet, the king, you know what I'm saying? Knowing when to shift and morph into which role that your. That your family needs, because there's different times and different spaces that your parent, your children, and your wife will need different versions of you. You know, there's this thing called the four faces of man. Manhood is called king, warrior, lover, friend, right? And those are the different faces that men are on a daily basis. So typically, we stay stuck in warrior and king mode, because we're men and we're out there, you know, eating what we kill, fighting the world, you know what I'm saying? Carrying the weight of the world over our shoulders. And then, you know, what you fail to do is switch faces when you get home and your wife gets the king and the warrior, and she really needs the lover, and your daughter needs the friend, but you're in the king and warrior mode, and it's hard for you to turn that off, because that's just how we're programmed. So just being vulnerable and being able to discern which version do I need to be in what space of my life? Like, when I'm out there speaking you king in, right? You warrior. When you come home, leave him at the door. Be that boy. To be that loving that friend for you to have some more kids, too. [00:48:00] Speaker A: Hey, you funny now I remember. Yeah. My wife, she was talking to me, and I said, okay, do you want the motivational Kevin Lee, or do you want the other one? And sometimes she'd be like, okay, I need the motivation. And it's also. She'd be like, no, I just need. I need my husband. So. And then. So, you know, I had to adapt to it. But no, man, straight up. Because that's honestly some great advice. I I never heard of the four use that faces. Yeah. King, warrior, lover, friend. I'd never actually heard about that, but I see it, though. You don't say, I see it. I've never heard about it, but I see it, so it makes total sense. [00:48:42] Speaker B: Yeah, I ain't gonna take all the credit for it. I got. I heard it from my pastor, so I ain't gonna take it from. His name is, uh, PK. We call him PK. He gave us that at a bold men's Monday. Um, and once I heard, I was like, boom. That. That makes so much sense, right? And so that's something that I ride with all the time. But, hey, I got something to tell you. Was talking about motivational Kevin Lee. This is my new thing, and you can't steal it, because I said on the podcast first, I'm a motivational speaker based in biblical truths. [00:49:14] Speaker A: That's deep. Come on, now. No, that's deep. Come on, now and explain to everybody what that means so they know. [00:49:22] Speaker B: That means I'm gonna come and give you the tools to be motivated to try to move your life forward. But everything that I'm telling you is based on the Bible. [00:49:33] Speaker A: Mmm. That's exactly what I knew you was gonna say. Exactly. [00:49:36] Speaker B: Right? [00:49:37] Speaker A: And how you always say, and I use this now, too. So I actually stole this one that you say, the Bible is not a rulebook, is a book of principles. I be stealing. I'll be telling people that, man, that's a gym. [00:49:47] Speaker B: I'll be telling people, that's what we do. We take bars from each other. Because really, nothing said that hasn't been said, right? That's all good, man. But, yeah, that's. That's my new thing, right? And it is a book of principles, right? And that's. That's stay in those principles as you go through fatherhood. Right? And if you stay in those principles, you know, like I said, train the child up in the way that they should go when they're young, because when they're old, they won't depart from it. So you do it like I give you a beautiful thing. Man. I got. I was in a wreck two weeks ago, right? So this little young girl, this young kid, she was, she didn't yield the right away and she had to turn in light, but she didn't have right away. I don't know if her light, I know my light was green. So either hers was flashing yellow or it was red. And so I'm at the light, like, goes green. You know, I typically wait for a second look to make sure nobody's running it this way, in that way. Pull out bread was like a movie. The next thing I hear, like, boom. And airbag comes out, smoking the whip. I'm like, bro, what is going on? Like, it was just like, that quick. And I know one. Nobody in front of me, like, man, what is going on? So now I'm trying to figure out, like, because, you know, it's a shock, right? Your body goes into it, like a quick state of shock. Looking around, looking to see everything looks to be good. Smoke clears. And I see her car. So basically, she hit me, like, here. And then our car slid, like. Like that. She was turned. I was going north on the road. She was coming south, turn lane. She turns, hits me, like, right in the left front of my car with, you know, the lights and all that stuff. And then slides to a stop. So I look. Smoke clears, get out of my car, see what's going on. I'm okay. Boom. 911 calls me. I call my wife. My wife says, when, when I. When we told. When we. When I told Carrington, the nine year old, she immediately start praying. She said, can we stay? She says, daddy, can we say a prayer for dad right now? And she went into prayer right then she told the 15 year old and so on and so forth. But again, if you train them, right, training her to understand who God is, who the what, what the power of God can do, what is the benefit of tapping into his power, right? And she, she's taking a grasp to it and she'll ask me questions about God, you know, little things like that. She knows her, she knows the Lord's prayer. She's going to say that before she goes to sleep every night when she wakes up, she has her, she has a little phone, but she doesn't have service, but she can use it in the house on like Wi Fi. She has her reminder set and one of the reminders just for her to pray before bed and when she gets up. So I say all that to say, you train them the right way, right? It's going to take root. You plant the seed, you keep, you let God water it, you water it when opportunity arises and God will give the harvest. So that was a beautiful moment for me just to her, just, you know, she was worried about her dad, but she knew immediately. [00:53:22] Speaker A: Let me pray for my dad, man, that, that's amazing. The fact that she said, okay, my dad is in an accident, I'm going to the one true king, I'm going to the heavenly Father first because I know he's the only one that could keep you safe at the end of day. If it were, if it was your turn, I'm, and I'm happy. It's not because we own this podcast, but if it was your time to go, then it was your time to go. But he definitely has something or date for you. And the fact that your daughter, that was her first instant, that just shows, that shows the magnitude of who you are as you. You're not just somebody who just posts about guy, you're not somebody who just talks about it right here, but you embody it. Literally, you embody it. And so, I mean, that's, that's definitely something that I am admire about you. You embody the holy spirit, you, not somebody who's playing games and you see the fruit in your life and the relationships that you have, you know, the kids that you have. So, yeah, man, it's, it's just amazing to see another man, especially somebody who's older than me. Cuz you all know, to be my dad. So everything, like in this first thing, I was like this dude ripped, like I did not evangelist popping out, did not expect you to be your age, but it's just amazing, you know, to have that relationship a relationship with you because honestly, and I'll tell you this a lot, but in a pretty sure, you know, though, like, I learned a lot from you, just listening to you, the wisdom that you give and I use it in my life and, you know, and I'm not too ignorant to take advice from anybody. I'll take advice from a little kid if it's great advice. But, but yeah, man. So definitely, that's just amazing. Just keep doing what you're doing because evidently is work. Evidently it shows, like your flowers that the seeds that you are planning, you're seeing the flowers in your children. So that's absolutely amazing. [00:55:18] Speaker B: I appreciate that, bro. But, you know, I'm, I'm like, I'm one of dudes like King David, right? I believe I'm a man after God's own heart, but I've made, I make stupid, I've made stupid mistakes like Dave, you know, mean, it's a work in progress, continuing to, you know, push to become a better person. A lot of carnage in my past, a lot of things that, you know, I'm not proud of. But I do know that God is a redeemer. He's a keeper. And the beautiful thing is you can don't let the enemy beat you down with, with your past and tell you what you can't be because the reason he's telling you what you aren't is one, is because he's a liar and the truth ain't in him. But two is because he knows what you're capable of becoming and who you can become. And so he's going to try to keep you off of that track as quickly and as effectively as possible, right? So here's the thing about it, right? And this is what we have to do as, as men, as leaders, as kingdom, you know, disciples, we got to be on our job 24/7 because that joker don't, he don't take a day off. He don't miss. He work overtime. And he got people on the payroll that's working overtime, too. So why would we sleep and why would we be slack on the job when his joker is going hard 24/7 he's going hard 24/7 because he only knows he has a limited amount of time to accomplish whatever he can accomplish. But he knows if we tap into and connect to the true vine of who, who God designed us to be, it's literally nothing he can do with us, bro. And it's like, I feel the goosebumps. As I said there, if you listening to this podcast, right now, there's literally nothing that enemy can do to you to stop you if you don't allow him to do it. He can't even plant, he can't even plant. He can't even plant seeds in your mind. The only, only way he starts to plant seeds in your mind is it when you speak it out loud. He cannot read, Joe. He can't. He can't read your thoughts. He's not God. God knows our thoughts. The enemy don't know our thoughts. The only way he knows what we may be thinking is when we put putting it in the world because he's the prince of the air. Did you hear what I just said? He's the prince of this air. And the only way he knows what your weakness is is when you put it out there. I'll never be nothing. Ain't nothing gonna work for me. I'm tired. I'm gonna give up. That's what the enemy say when you say, got him. I know, I know. I know what to use now. But when you don't put that out there, right, and you trust and believe who God says he is, and you know who God made you to be unstoppable, bro. Nobody on the corner got swagger like us, like Ti said. They don't, because we got. We got somebody who is perfect in every nature, right? He's powerful, he's omnipresent, he's transcendent, he's wrathful, he's loving, he's faithful. He's got so many attributes that we can tap into, right? But you have to be able to tap into those things. And the way that you tap into these is getting this right here, right? And you say, I hear pop. I do. I don't know the will. God's will for my life. Read his word. That's God's will. God's word is in perfect harmony with his will. So if you need to know God's will go into his word. You will find the will for your life. You'll just open up the scripture out the blue, and it'll be something that you need to hear or see that will speak to your soul, speak to your situation. I literally do this all the time, Kevin. I'm pretty sure you've done it, too. Sometimes you just open up the Bible and you'll read something. It'll jump off at the page and be speaking to you. But if you don't do that and you spend your time eating a bunch of junk food, you're going to have a junk spirit. A junk body, a junk mind. Anyway, I could go off on a tangent on that anyway, but guess what? Man is God's word is nourishment for the soul, right? And it's not going. It's not going to fail. That's the thing about him. He says he is not the son of a man, that he should repent. He said, I'm not a son of man, that I should lie. So he can't lie. Right? So if it's in his word, you can apply it to your life. And the problem is, we don't know the word. So we don't know what to apply to our situations. We don't know how to lead our family. We don't know how to run our businesses. We don't know how to run our finances, because we're not using the strategy. The strategy is laid out in every book of this Bible, right? It is. It is God breathing. It's God breathed. It's written for inspiration, is written for proof, and it's gonna find you, right? But you have to be open to letting it find you to become who you want to become. So when you see this man out here talking on these stages and getting them five, six figure checks is because he's doing the work, don't complain about the results that you don't get for the work that you don't do. [01:00:45] Speaker A: Hey, hey, hey. I was looking at my schedule. I'm like, bro, I'm so busy. I'm exhausted. And then I had to remember I prayed for this. I pray. I pray to have all these opportunities. [01:00:56] Speaker B: I want to say that your flight was full. You prayed. You pray deep. [01:01:00] Speaker A: I prayed. You feel me? [01:01:01] Speaker B: And now that you got a buffet, you better, you better, you better get fat. [01:01:05] Speaker A: I'm still eating a fork down. Hey. Yeah. I want to say this before we, you know, close it. Wrap it up. So I know this guy. I have a friend who grew up buddhist, right? Grew up buddhist. And he never really talked about it, but he knows, you know, I'm a Christian. He knows I follow Christ. And he'd been knowing this as I met him five years ago, man. I seen him this week on Tuesday, and he said, man, can I tell you something? I said, yeah, what's up? He said, I found jesus, bro. When he said that, I was like, I was dumbfounded. I was like, what? He said, man, I found Jesus. He says, for so long in my life, like, my marriage didn't work, the relationships I had with people didn't work. Just everything just wasn't right. And it's because I had an emptiness. I had a void in me, and it was in with Jesus that I needed to fill that void. He is my everything he brought. When he said, I'm talking about, he's, like, proclaiming to me that love Jesus, he found him. And I'm just like, man. And so it doesn't matter where you come from, it doesn't matter how you was raised. It doesn't matter if you was raised a different denomination, a different religion, whatever the case may be, jesus is for everybody. He doesn't care what country you come from. He doesn't care the race, he doesn't care the gender. He doesn't care what you did in your past. If you're a murderer, you a thief, it does not matter. He is for everyone, man. And so just seeing that my friend has found down Jesus, it's. It's. It's amazing. And I told him, next time I see him, he better stay with that same energy. Because, you know, sometimes, you know, when you just find Jesus, you want to high. You feel me? You on fire, then that fire burns away. I said, man, I want to see it. Because it. Honestly, it brought me so much happiness just to see him. Because, bro, I never knew this was going to happen, because my brother, dude is buddhist. His family is buddhist. And then he said, yeah, man, he said, I'm really upset. Well, I'm not upset, but he said, I'm really worried about what my family is going to say because, you know, they buddhist. And so I think that I could, you know, still be buddhist and be christian, you know, still follow Jesus. I said, nah, that's not how it works. Because he said right before that, he said, and the Bible says that put no God before me. And then he went on to say that, and I said, nah, man, that's not how it works. You know, you can't be dabbling over here. You got to be head home full force for Jesus, like, knowing that he is the one, the only in the only way. And, um, he said, he was like, man, you write you right? I'm gonna have to just break it to them and tell them, like, look, this is. This is not the truth. This is the truth right here. Um, so, yeah, man, so it's. It's. It's amazing. You know, it's amazing in that. Yeah, he does not matter. It is a. Because at the end of that, you come from him anyway. So you might go out there and do your little crazy stuff. Come back over here. Come back over here. You might as well. [01:04:20] Speaker B: Yeah, that's. That's beautiful. But that's also a testament to how you live, how you move, and him seeing, you know, you being openly open and faithful in your belief of who God is. Because the Bible says every knee gonna bow, every tongue gonna confess, Christ is Lord. You know? And it's gonna happen. Right? You can look at the world today and see what's going on, man. It's. Anyway, we will talk about that at another date and another time because that's another 30 minutes. [01:04:55] Speaker A: We coming hot with these podcasts, so get ready. Coming hot with them now. [01:04:58] Speaker B: Yeah, yeah, yeah. So here's my. We haven't heard one of your. Give us a hot bar because we heard none from. Oh, Mister Kevon empowers Mister Kevin Lee. And in quite some time, as a new dad, give us a dad bar or something. [01:05:12] Speaker A: A dad bar. Oh, okay, okay, okay. How about this? How about this? And this is for the men out there. Take a deep dive and see what your priority is. Is your priority your job? Is your priority your lifestyle? Or are you making your wife and your kids a priority? And remember that writing on the wall. Write it on the mirror somewhere where you could see that every single day. So you could be very intentional. I'm telling you now, women, they are emotional. They. They know. They know when you have there or when you all the way there, they know you can't hide it from them. And so for every father out there, because I'm a new father, I want you to be the best father. I want you to be the. If you. If you're married, the best husband, because they deserve that. They deserve the best you. They don't deserve 90% of you. They didn't deserve 99% of you. They deserve a hundred percent. However that looks like they deserve that from. [01:06:08] Speaker B: That's good. That's good. And it's all about, for me, I'm gonna say it's all about perspective. People thought that Goliath was a giant, but honestly, David brought a gun to it, to a sword fight. [01:06:24] Speaker A: I'm done. I'm logging off. [01:06:27] Speaker B: So it's all about perspective, right? He brought a gun to a sword fight. They thought that. That Goliath was the. Was the giant, but God took Goliath's supposed strength, and it used it against him. So do not allow your strength to become your weakness. And it's very easy to do. Stay mindful of your strength, work on your weaknesses, and don't become so overconfident, your abilities that you lose sight of who gave you that ability, and that ultimately, that strength will become your weakness. That's it. Hey, this elevated mindset podcast with. With. With your boy Cy and the new dad. [01:07:20] Speaker A: That's me, Kevon Lee. Y'all know where to find us everywhere. My Kevon empowers every. Every social media platform. My website is actually my name, though, Kevin Lee. But everything else is Kevin and Powers. If you want to reach out to me, please reach out my team, or I will. Look, I'm over here trying to sound like I'm just popping. Hey, look. [01:07:42] Speaker B: Exactly my team. Don't they call those things to be? Not as though they were. [01:07:47] Speaker A: I'll make sure to reach out to you, especially if you respond with something about this podcast. I promise you, I'll reach back out to you. [01:07:55] Speaker B: And I will say this in closing. If you got some value out what we said, we ask that you share this with somebody. We ask that you tag somebody in the post. We ask that you subscribe to the podcast, and we ask that you ask the people that you share it with to subscribe as well. We want to drop as much kingdom wisdom as possible on the world. And if you want to hear more of us, we need your support. Until next week, it's the elevator mindset podcast, and we gon. [01:08:36] Speaker A: We gonna elevate Kevin and Powers, mister 80 20 cy. What up, though? Let's get into it, y'all. [01:08:44] Speaker B: Yeah. [01:08:45] Speaker A: It's time to pick up your sword in, impact the culture. Get in your word in, build up yourself.