Episode Transcript
[00:00:18] Speaker A: What's going on? What's going on? What's going on, people? This your boy cy.
My guy Kevon Lee. Me and we are the elevated Mindset podcast, and we're coming at you for episode three.
Can you believe that? We are running up into episode three. Today we're going to visit the topic of discipline, right? And so we're going to jump into a deeper discussion about discipline, how it benefits us as men to be. To live a disciplined life. What do you get out of being disciplined? And just a general discussion around how you can implement those practices in your.
[00:01:01] Speaker B: Life.
[00:01:03] Speaker A: And what the outcomes will be if you stay consistent with discipline. Well, first of all, let's start off with my man Kevon out here changing the world. I see you was in Houston this past week, man. Tell me a little bit about the.
[00:01:16] Speaker B: Yeah, man. Hey, you know I'm from California, right? So the times I get to go to, it was my first time ever in Houston. I've been to Lubbock. I've been to Dallas. But, man, I went to Houston. I said, bro, I could honestly move here. It was know, meeting different people. I went to pastor Keon Henderson church. The church was live. It was amazing, man. But I just want to share a little testimony before we get started. It's crazy because after last episode, I started feeling sick, right, that night. And it was funny because I told you, I said, man, I'm not sick. There's no way I'm getting sick, right? Anyway, I end up having the flu. Fever of 102 just wasn't feeling good. And by the weekend, I was like, okay, I feel a lot better. But now, instead of that feeling in my throat that I had, now I had it around the side of my throat. And I said, okay, this is new. I never felt this feeling. And by Sunday night, I couldn't talk. Mind you, I have to be in Houston by Friday to speak. I could not talk Monday, I couldn't talk Tuesday, I couldn't talk Wednesday. My wife is like, bro, it is boring in this house. You can't speak to me. We're not talking about nothing. Why?
I could not talk, right? And so I was talking to this woman. She said, you should get some oregano oil. And it's funny because as soon as I told you I was sick, you said, get some oregano oil. See, this is why you got to listen to the seasoned people, because they know what they're talking about. And me, I'm like, nah, it's going to brush off. It's going to be good. Anyway, so I end up getting oregano oil, and Thursday, mind you, I get on the plane, I still cannot talk. I don't know how in the heck I'm going to talk. The next morning at this conference, I was just going to be there.
The most powerful mouth thing you will ever see in your life. But I just kept taking it. And by Friday morning, miraculously, by God's will, my voice was back. And not only was it back, I felt it was back with a different bass, with a different depth to and a tone to it. And, yeah, man. So I went out there, I inspired them. It was amazing. Even this one kid, he came up to me, he said, kevon, I'm going to be honest. I didn't want to come to this event. They made me come to this event. I've been through this, and I already know that my life, there's no way I could be successful. There's no way I could change generational cycles. He said, but when I heard you, when I heard that what you've been through, it lit a spark into me. And now I'm going to leave out of here a change person.
Just hearing things like that, right? Even if I didn't hear nothing, and I heard great things from the adults there, the students there, I heard amazing things from everybody. But just hearing that one young man, he was somewhere in high school, but that young man say that it makes all the difference in the world. So that's why we do what we do, right? But again, Houston is amazing. I will move there. I even told my wife, I said, look, we're going to move to Houston. She said, when? She just said, when I said, okay, that was my go hand. So I might be out there in Texas with you.
[00:04:06] Speaker A: Well, you can come get you a mansion for them prices you pay out there in California, man. So come on, you're one of the few California people that will let in everybody else. I might just seal the borders off because y'all running up the cost of living down here, like, really bad.
Anyway, man, I'm glad to hear that you're doing better. That's amazing that you impacted and transformed somebody's life. And at the end of the day, that's what it's about, right? That's why we have this podcast, to elevate your mind, elevate your life, elevate your surroundings. And so last week, we talked about accountability.
The first steps of accountability. Looking yourself in the mirror, changing your life, how you think, how you act, what you allow to enter into the gates. So if you're not familiar with the gates, the gates are the ear gate, the mouth gate, and the eye gate. So you have to watch what you intake in every one of those gates, because the more you feed it, the bigger it grows. So if you feed the spiritual man, that spiritual man is going to blossom and grow, and if you feed that natural man, that natural man is going to blossom and grow, and you're going to be ready to knock somebody out when they say something to you, right? So we talked about that. We talked about how you grow in that space. So we want to build right on that. So what we're doing is we're going to establish building blocks for each week. We're going to give you another block to build on. So you have a skill set that you really can use moving forward in your life that you can really apply in everyday life for you to get where you desire to be. Right? We don't want to just talk. We want to give you tools and things that you can implement daily so that you can become the God divine version of yourself. So this week, we're going to talk about discipline, which is that next block, right? So discipline, right. A lot of people have a lot of thoughts on discipline, but discipline. And we're not talking about you getting beat before because you made a mistake. We're talking about self discipline that changes your life and allows you to accomplish your goals. So, real quick, Kevon, give me your personal definition of discipline and how it's applicable to your life, and then I'll kind of piggyback off of that and give my take on discipline as well. Like, is discipline necessary? Are you disciplined? And if you are disciplined, why are you disciplined? And what do you get out of being disciplined?
[00:06:37] Speaker B: My simple definition to discipline is conquering yourself. Can you conquer your daily vices? Right. I don't know what your vice might be. It might be drugs, alcohol, pornography. It might be, like, sex. I don't know what that vice is. Right. But when it comes to discipline, you got to understand that in order to be successful in anything in your life, you could work hard, you could be the most talented. You could come from money. You can have all the resources in the world. But if you are not 100% disciplined, then none of that stuff matter. None of that resources, none of that money that you have. You have to be disciplined in anything you do. Right. And that's not only success in the monetary realm I'm talking about, that's success in relationships. That's success in friendships. That's success in school. That's success in business, whatever the success is, you have to be disciplined. That. And, see, the problem with most people is that they're not disciplined. They want the results before they go through the process. And because they want the results before they go through the process, they're not disciplined enough to go through that process and really hold on in into that process. Because that's the thing right there, right? Once you go through the process and you understand, okay, if I could do this, ABC or D, this is the platform, this is the way I got to do it. And you go in and do it, and sometimes it don't work out the way you want to, but most of the time, if you go in and you do it, no matter how long it takes, it may take a day, it may take months, it may take years, whatever that thing is. But do you have the discipline? Are you disciplined enough to keep going? Do you have that consistency mindset in you to keep going? So consistency and discipline, if you ask me, they work hand in hand together, because when you have consistency, but you don't have the discipline to get up every single day and say, okay, I'm going to work on this. I'm going to work on that. For instance, right? I'm a speaker.
I tell people this all the time, bro, it sounds good. I don't work a nine to five job. And there's nothing wrong with a nine to five job. Right? And people say, Kevin, I want to be a speaker. I got a story, too. But you don't understand how hard this stuff is. There's months where I might not make no money. There's months when I might not have anything coming in, and there's months when I'm boom, like, the bank just blow up. I just get a lot of money in. But it's having that discipline to stay grounded and keep going because there has been months where my bank account didn't get nothing in, zero in. But I stayed disciplined and knowing that, okay, Kevon, there will be times like this. And don't get discouraged, but keep going. If you want to reach your goals and reach the goals that you set for you and your family, then you have to keep going. Again, discipline is conquering yourself. Can you conquer yourself when you're going through those times?
[00:09:18] Speaker A: That's good stuff. Good stuff from a young, intelligent, wise young padawagon.
But no, that's a good definition. And so, for me, everything you said, I agree with. Right? And I'm just going to build on what you spoke about as well. So, for me, like, discipline is control gained by enforcing order, right? So you have to enforce order in your life, and that means having a regiment on a daily basis. Right.
You got to understand that people don't really realize this, but discipline is the mother of genius, and consistency is the father of breakthrough.
So if you marry discipline and consistency, you got genius and breakthrough. So they go hand in hand, right? And there's a quote by Nick Saban that really resonates with me. It says, you can deal with the pain of discipline or later on, deal with the pain of regret.
So think about that discipline. Yeah. You can't eat that cookie when you want to eat that cookie. You can't have that cake when you want to have that cooked cake, or you can't have that drink when you want to have that drink because you're being disciplined and following your diet. But then when you get to the beach, you ain't going to be the only brother out there on the beach with a t shirt on while everybody else there got their beach body ready. Right? I see the memes, too, where people say the beach is going to get whatever body I give it. That's cool if that's what you want to do, right? But if you really want to look your best and be your best, you have to have the discipline of going to the gym. You have to have the discipline of following the meal plan. Right. It doesn't matter that you work out if you don't eat. Right.
It doesn't matter that if you work out if you don't get enough sleep. So you have to be disciplined in every aspect of your life for them to connect and for you to get a breakthrough in that space of whatever it is, right? So just remember that discipline is the motherhood of genius.
And if you want to be genius, be disciplined. Right. There's a lot of people that are probably not really very that smart, but they are disciplined and they're consistent, so they're doing the things that you don't do because you don't have the self control to do it. And like you said, discipline is self control. And for me, I remember there was a time in my life I wasn't disciplined. I just was flying by the seat of my pants and life was okay, but I was not getting to the levels and the spaces in life that I wanted to go. I was not seeing the fruit of any of my labor because my labor was all over the place. Right? One day I was working in the field. One day I was working in the kitchen. One day I was working in the yard, right. But there was no rhyme or reason to what I was doing. So if you want to see a plan come together, have a plan and follow that plan. That's discipline. Discipline is getting up in the morning praying. Discipline is getting up in the morning reading your Bible. Discipline is getting up in the morning listening to something that's going to feed your mind, that allow you to become the best version of yourself, right? So doing that every day is when the consistency starts to compound and you start to see a breakthrough in life. You start to see doors get open for you, right? And here's the thing. One of the biggest things I want to say about discipline, the Bible says, if you be faithful over few things, I'll make you rule over many. That's discipline. Being faithful means that you're strong in what you're doing, you believe in what you're doing, and you're doing it on a consistent basis. So if you do those few things, they add up, right. Each and every one of those points add up, and before you know it, you have an exponential breakthrough.
And remember this, I say this all the time. Disciplined lives are the exception, not the rule.
[00:13:47] Speaker B: So, look, your whole brand is 80 20 nation, right? 80 2080, 20 everything. And I think that the pinnacle of 80 20 is discipline.
It is, right. Because 80%, we look at it as exciting diet, right.
80% of the time that you eat, you need to eat healthy. You need to be on that diet, you need to have that lifestyle. 20% eat what you want. Same thing. Working out. Right. 80% of the time, you need to be working out and working out hard. Right. And at 20% of the time, if you want to go hang out, do something like that, okay? That's you. But even with your brand, it shows the discipline that you have to have. Right. And I'm pretty sure when you speak and you go to these corporate events and you speak at these events, whether it's workshop keynotes or everything like that, I'm pretty sure you talk about discipline. Is that correct?
[00:14:38] Speaker A: Yes, it's very correct. Because in order for any of us to get where we want to, like, we have to be be. To me, discipline is nothing but a plan. Kevon, you cannot expect to get to.
I live in Dallas, but I live on the outskirts, so I can't expect to get from north Dallas to downtown Dallas if I don't know a route, I don't have a planned route that I'm going to take, whether it be written down or in my mind.
So I might just be driving through Dallas for about four or 5 hours, because I have no plan.
Having a plan is part of discipline.
You have to know where you want to go. It's like Dave Ramsey says and Anthony O'Neill and all those money people. It's like you have to give your money a place to go, or it'll go wherever it wants to go, and then you'll wonder why you don't have any money. That's discipline, right? It's just consistently knowing what you want your outcome to be and then reverse engineering where you're trying to go and reverse engineering the steps to make sure that you get to that desired goal.
[00:15:49] Speaker B: Definitely.
[00:15:50] Speaker A: So, tell me this. How do you practice the discipline that you have as far as, like, you're an entrepreneur, so if you don't kill it, you don't eat.
You can be days where you don't want to do nothing and you don't have to do nothing, right? Because you may have had a great month, one of those great months that can carry you for a couple of months, and you could rest on those laurels and be like, I'm good for a couple of months.
What is it that you do that allows you to be disciplined enough to continue to build and grow so that you don't get to that point where you're just like, oh, my God, I don't know what I'm going to do, man.
[00:16:29] Speaker B: It's funny, because even when I have a huge month, right, I never think that I could just. Okay, Kevon, let's chill. You could chill the next month. You could chill the next two to three months.
I always want to work harder. I remember me, my a. I want to call an argument. I wouldn't even call it a disagreement. But we got into a conversation, right? And she said, why, every time you wake up, you should jump right out of bed? And I'm just like, that's how I'm wired.
I'm telling you, as soon as I wake up, because I usually wear my watch to bed before my alarm go off on my phone. I feel it vibrate on my watch, and so I click it off, I jump straight out of bed, and I get out of bed, and I do what I have to do, right? And I just think that's just because how I'm wired. And I think that's where the discipline comes in, knowing that, okay, Kevon, you have to get up, and you have to work hard every single day because tomorrow's gig is not promised. There's thousands of speakers out here, right? And if I'm being honest, we might be talking about the same exact thing, but who's going to work harder to get those gigs? Who's going to work harder to build their brand and have a bigger brand presence, have a bigger stage presence and things like that? And so, like I said, it's a daily fight, man. There's some months, like I said, I'm doing great. There's some months are huge, and I could take months off if I want to, but I don't want to. I want to keep going. And so that's where that discipline really kicks in. It's like, are you going to settle or are you going to keep going? Right? And I know plenty of people that in that type of whoever would do, if they're doing that good, they will want to settle. But that's why I think I'm truly wired different. And I think that goes back to how I grew up, how I really didn't have anything, how in the back of my head I want to say I'm fearful, but in the back of my head it's like, Kevin, if you do not work hard, if you do not keep going, do you want to go back to that same place? That's my type of mind that I had into college. I said, okay, I do not want to go back and live with my grandma. I need to get through college. And whatever happens after that happens, meaning if I get a job from an entrepreneur, because at the time, I didn't know what I wanted to be, but I knew that I had to get through school, and so I had the discipline of, instead of going out to party, I don't drink or smoke, but instead of going out to do stuff like that or hang out with different people and things like that, at night, I stayed inside and I did my essay. I stayed inside and I did my homework, or I did my research. And that's why I was able to graduate in four years. And the people around me just not graduating, and I now have my master's. And so it's that discipline, right? Because too many of us play too much. Like we really play too much. As a 25 year old, I could really speak on how much people around my age play too much. And they're okay with just being, I wouldn't call it normal, but they're okay with just existing, they're okay with just being here, not making impact, not being disciplined enough to be better because they cannot see that they don't have visions. They don't have the vision to see better for their life. And that's where it's so sad. And man, I can only imagine how the next generation will be.
And I said, as speakers, that's where we come in and we inspire them. Because me, we both had our hardship, we both went through our things and just letting them know that life could be better. But that all roots from discipline, right? I had to be disciplined in reaching out to people. I'm going to be honest with you guys. For the 100 people I reach out to, I might get two responses, I might get two. And out of those two, I might get one that I might book. So out of 100 people I reach out to, I might only get one engagement from that. And sometimes there might be good. Where I reach out to 100 people, I get three, four engagement. I promise you, I'm not getting 100 engagements from it, I promise you. But it's that discipline to keep going even when those times are hard, because it's going to get hard, especially if you're an entrepreneur. It depends what type of business you're in. But I'm in the business of speaking and I don't speak every single day. I literally might speak three to four times a month. I might speak three to four times a month. I have other streams of income, but when it comes to speaking, I might only speak three or four times a month because budgets, because of money things or stuff that they're going through.
But yeah, man, so you just have to have that discipline to keep going. And I realized that although I'm 25, if I just stay with this discipline, where can I be at 30 and always keep that mindset.
[00:20:53] Speaker A: That's good stuff, man. Take notes, right? If you didn't have a notepad out, replay it and take your notes, right? And this is probably a podcast that you're going to have to listen to a couple of times to get all the nuggets that we're dropping.
And the thing for me as it relates to discipline is I came to a point in my life where I couldn't complain about the results I didn't get for the work that I didn't do.
Right? A lot of times we complain about our life, but we don't do anything to better ourselves or better our lives or put ourselves in a space to get to that next level. So you can't complain about the results you don't get for the work that you don't do. I'm going to say that a third time, stop complaining about the results you don't get for the work that you don't do.
Life is hard. Choose your heart.
Like I said, you can have the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. And I've said this, I think we may have said this here, but I know I've said it multiple times. The graveyard is the richest place on earth because a lot of undisciplined people went to their grave with unwritten books, unwritten shows, unfulfilled potential, wasted talent, all that because they could not be disciplined. So ask yourself, what am I doing to get myself to that next level?
And why am I not doing what it takes to get myself to that next level? Right? A lot of times we look at everybody else around us and what they're doing and how they're faring and seeing what they're doing, but you weren't with them in the gym shooting them jump shots, like they said about Kobe, you weren't with me shooting in the gym. So oftentimes you're looking at somebody's result, but you weren't there for the hard work. You weren't there for the blood, sweat, and tears. You weren't there for the nose. You weren't there for everything that they suffered for to get to that place. But you just want to get to that place because it looks good.
When you are marked by God, when you're anointed by God, when you're called to do something greater, it takes discipline. And with that discipline is going to come pain, right? And so you have to understand that in order for me to get to that place, I have to go through this. Pain is part of my purpose, and that pain is going to fuel me to get where I want to go. So think about this, Kevon. This is what I say all the time.
Your why has to outweigh everything that's going on in your life. And when you don't want to do something, that's when that discipline needs to kick in. And your why needs to be bigger than. Your why not?
Your why needs to be bigger than me skipping a workout today. Your why needs to be bigger than me skipping the book, reading a book today. Your why needs to be bigger than me spending time praying. I mean, your why needs to be bigger than you not spending time to pray. All those things that it's going to take to get you to the next level, right? And there's, like, different buckets for me. So for you, what are the buckets that I must do these every day in order to be successful in life, for me to become the divine version of Kevon that God has designed me to be.
[00:24:27] Speaker B: Definitely. And before I talk about that, I just want to know your why. Your why might shift. And when I was younger, my why was okay. My grandmother, she retired. She had bought a brand new house, a brand new car, but she moved from Mississippi to California to adopt me. So she lost that brand new house. She lost that brand new car. And, man, we had lived in hotels. We had to live with other people. We had to stay in that car some nights. And so growing up, my why was my grandma right, meaning that I had to be successful one day. I want to buy my grandma house. Now, my grandmother, she passed away before I became an author. She passed away before I graduated from college. She passed away before I became a speaker, before I got married. All those things, right? But she was my why. And as I got older, my why is shifting to okay. I'm about to be a father. My daughter is my why. My wife is my why. Everything that I do and I work hard is for them. And so when you realize that you have to move with a sense of urgency, but not only move with a sense of urgency, but move with a sense of unselfishness, then you will see the fruits of your labor, right? And so, man, some of the daily things that I do is I have to read my bible, right? Even if it's five minutes a day. I have to get in there and I have to allow the Lord to speak to me. I have to do that. Another thing that I do to stay disciplined is I get up and I exercise. I have to exercise. Whether that's going to the gym, whether that's going on a bike ride, whether that's going on a run or playing basketball, something, I got to do something.
And that keeps me grounded, right? And I always tell people, ain't nobody going to hire a fat motivational speaker.
Ain't nobody going to hire a fat motivational speaker. They're going to be like, he don't look disciplined enough. What is he going to do? It's just like when you go to a doctor, if your doctor is 300 pounds and he tell you how to eat, you going to look at him like dog. And they always say, do as I say, not as I do. No, that shows no discipline. I need you to be disciplined so I could believe what you're saying.
As you guys know who have listened to our podcast, who knows me and who know Carlson, we both were overweight. We both were not overweight. Obese. I was morbid. Obese. My BMI was 42 at one point. I'm talking about Pan, size 52. Horrible. Five. Five. I'm five eight now, but, man, horrible, right? But those are the things I have to do. I have to get up. I have to get on my word. I have to pray. I have to exercise and then stay disciplined when it comes to business wise. And then I work on my business. But those are the things that really keep me grounded. And I wanted to let you guys know, this is. My dad told me this one time, he said, make your car your library and not your nightclub. And what he means by that is how you know what your eyes see, what your ears take in. You get what I'm saying? That is what become. And so I stopped listening to rap. I don't know the newest rap song. I don't listen to things on YouTube that are bad for my spiritual being. Right? And so I'm listening to a lot of sermons. I'm listening to a lot of gospel music. I'm listening to a lot of podcasts to feed my mind. I'm listening to those type of things. And honestly, when you start to do that, you start to realize that your life will become more disciplined in the things that you want to do, especially when you start to read those different kind of books and things like that.
[00:27:50] Speaker A: That's good, man. That's good. And for our listeners that are listening to this, and you're saying, well, why should I read discipline? Also understand this. That discipline is God centered.
The Fruit of the spirit is Self Control. That's discipline. That is a Fruit of the spirit. So if you're walking in a religious space and you have no discipline, you're lacking a Fruit of the spirit. And the BIble says that a tree is known by the fruit that it bears, and a tree that doesn't bear fruit, they said they cut it down and toss it in the fire to be burned. And if you think about that, ask yourself, what fruit am I lacking as it relates to self discipline? And think about how you can fix that and even think about this. David, the greatest king of all time, a man after God's own heart.
David was undisciplined.
DaviD slayed Goliath, but lost to BAThSHEba Bruh. When you really think about that, this is a man after God's Own heart, but he was not disciplined when it came to women.
And that has probably been all of. Well, I applaud you because you have walked a path that many of us wish we have walked. But I can say at one time in my life, I was undisciplined when it came to women. Right? And they can be your biggest hindrance if you're not focused on becoming who you need to be. So to all the men that are chasing skirt chase purpose, the right woman will come along. Women are going to be there. I tell my son this all the time. I say, you become who you need to be, and the woman will be there.
There honestly are more women than there are men.
And so if you become who you need to be, a woman, the woman, the right woman will appear. You don't have to chase women. Right? You don't have to seek that validation in women. Right? That's a lack of discipline. And I can say I was guilty of that lack of discipline. And so when I say this again, think about this. David slayed Goliath and cut his head off, but he lost to a woman taking a bath. She was his downfall. And if you know the story of how that basically destroyed David's family, caused a lot of inner turmoil with the child that was born from that situation, how it kind of just snowball. It was a snowball effect. And so a lack of discipline can put a black mark on whatever you're doing. It can be a woman. It could be alcohol, it could be all those things, all those vices that we often fall prey to. But when you purpose in your heart, in your mind, that, look, I'm fixing to be this version of myself that can't nobody touch. And I don't mean that you think you're better than anybody, but when you walk in that path that God has aligned for you to be right, we're talking about accountability, self control, becoming the best version of yourself. We're building on this premise of a kingdom, man, of an elevated mindset. So, like he was saying, for me, it started with just working out, because what started me down my discipline path was going to the doctor, and the doctor said, your cholesterol is borderline high. If you don't get it under control, I'm going to put you on cholesterol medicine. And looking at a picture of myself looking like Tupac, like that Tupac song say, looking like Larry Holmes, all flabby and sick.
I looked all flabby and sick in that picture. And I looked at that picture, and I looked at myself, and I said, see why you got to get it together? So go look in the mirror, go look at yourself and ask yourself, what area of your life are you lacking? Discipline and looking flabby and sick.
[00:31:56] Speaker B: No, that's deep, man. And I could testify to that, too. Like I said, I went to a doctor, 19 years old, right? Just about to graduate high school, about two weeks from graduation, and a doctor. They weighed me, I'm 300 pounds. They said, you got high cholesterol. They said I had high cholesterol, high blood pressure. They told me something else, and then they said, you pre diabetic? And when I heard that, that I'm pre diabetic, that's what it was like. Okay, we got to get. Mind you, I'm 19. I'm supposed to be getting into my prime. I'm supposed to be looking my best. I'm going to college. And yet how you said, I look in the mirror and I wow.
That you get what I'm saying. I see somebody who I did not want to be, and so I had to have that discipline. I don't care what nobody say. It is not easy to lose weight. Now. The math is simple. You eat less. No. You burn more than you eat. Simple. Right. Exercise. You eat less. No. But you have to have. And that's why a lot of people can't lose weight, is because you don't have discipline. I always tell people, if you lose weight, I could tell how disciplined you are as a person.
Especially, it's people who lose 100 pounds or more or people even. You lose 35, you become a better version of yourself. I could tell what type of person you are by if you have lost weight. And then not only that, if you could keep it off, because that's the hardest thing. You losing the weight, boom, you're looking good. You might start eating a little bit, and then you got to understand that that demon of undisciplined will come back to you, and then you will go back to the place where you started. Right? Because I lost weight. I started losing weight at 19. I'm 25 now. So by the age of 20, I had lost 140 pounds, right? So I had got down 159 or something like that. And so I'm not 159 no more because your boy was starving to get to 159.
I'm not obese. I'm at a great weight. I look good still. I'm not wearing three x's, four x's. And so the thing about how you said discipline, right? You could tell by a person who, and this is my belief, I don't know if it's yours, but just by how the person. How they look or how they treat themselves, how they even treat people around them, you could tell what type of person they are and if they have discipline.
[00:34:15] Speaker A: Yeah, I agree, man. And so, as we're talking about discipline, right? A lot of times, it doesn't have to be a woman. It doesn't have to be drugs. It doesn't have to be alcohol, right? For me, my lack of discipline was a reflection of my lack of love for myself, right. Because of the traumas that I faced as a young coming up. And so that lack of discipline was a placebo to make me feel like I was okay. But really, it was a trauma flight and a reflection of my lack of love for myself.
Like, a person that loves themselves takes care of themselves.
A person that loves themselves exercises the discipline to become who God designed them to be. Right? And so my goal is to give you some tools and some information to arm you, to get you started on the journey to become the best version of yourself, right? So, physical health, mental and emotional health, personal growth and development, time management, right? These are all discipline. Financial responsibility, relationship responsibility, and discipline in your relationship. These are all pieces of the puzzle that if you mix them together, you literally become the unstoppable version of yourself. And I said this on the podcast a couple of weeks ago. Everything that you need, God has already placed in you. The devil is only trying to stop you from releasing that and getting to the place where you release who you're supposed to become, who you're supposed to be.
And he can't stop you. You stop you by lack of discipline. Netflix and chilling. You get off. You binge watch, but you say you want a business, but you're watching Netflix all night. Or you're watching love and hip hop Atlanta, or you're watching what's that show with catfish? Right? You're binge watching all these shows. You do nothing to work towards your goals on the weekend, and then you complain about the life that you do not have.
It's because you lack discipline and you don't love yourself. Start loving yourself. Look in the mirror and ask yourself, who do I want to become?
Write down who you want to become. Write the vision down. Make it plain, and figure out where you want to be. And again, start taking the steps from the outcome back. This is what I need to do to become who I want to become. And Nick Saban says this all the time. You have to master the process.
Don't focus on the outcome. Master the process of where you want to be. And become so disciplined in doing these things.
It's proven, like, when you do things a certain way for a certain amount of time, it's like your body and your mind is on autopilot you form neural pathways to put your mind and your body on autopilot. So there's days I don't want to go work out, but I get up and go because I've done it so long.
What are you doing that you've done so long? That is not allowing you to get to where you want to be.
Who do you want to become?
[00:37:58] Speaker B: No, that's really good. Right?
Just how you could be disciplined in working out and stuff like that. You could be disciplined in your vices. And what I mean by that is you do them on a daily basis. You're constant in doing them. But you don't understand that those things are killing you. Those things are killing your spirit. You kill your spirit, you gone, right. You need that spirit to be whole. You needed that spirit to be filled with love. And I love how you just said that.
True discipline is showing love to yourself. Right. If you are disciplined in your life, then you truly love yourself, and you will see that in other things in your life, and that's where the problem lies. But let me ask you this. Have you seen people in your life, I'm pretty sure you got friends that you probably had since childhood or things like that, but who wasn't disciplined and you see where their life headed?
[00:38:51] Speaker A: Yeah, I see it all the time. I was that person at one point in time.
[00:38:58] Speaker B: What switch was it? You getting shot? Is that what really switched it?
[00:39:02] Speaker A: No.
Like I said, man, when I started, like, look, I started looking at myself and I didn't notice myself in the mirror, and I always felt like there was something better that I could be doing with my life. So it's like God would give me a preview to who I could be if I did the work. And I just always had this desire to just be better than I currently was.
[00:39:30] Speaker B: How old when you made that switch, when you realized that?
[00:39:34] Speaker A: About 30.
I wasted about ten years of my life and still wasted a little time after that getting sidetracked.
[00:39:41] Speaker B: I would say is that. The reason I say it's not a waste for you is because you learned from it. Now it's a waste if you never learn from it, right? And there's people who never learn from it. They 60, 70 years old, and they still living a life or they have nothing to show for it. Right. And so because you learn from it, I don't feel like it's a waste because now you have kids and you can still like, look, I did this. I'm telling you, you do this thing, you do these things, you won't live a prosperous life. You have people under you, right? You mentor me. You tell me things. And so it wasn't a complete waste because you're using it for good now, and you're using it to inspire the world. Literally, you're inspiring the world. You get to talk to hundreds of people, thousands of people in the crowd, and they need to hear exactly what you need to say. Right? And so going through those things, because I don't want people to think I was perfect either.
I was always good at school, things like that. But I wasn't disciplined when it came to relationships. Talk about my wife now. But my girlfriend back then, I wasn't disciplined in that. Trust me. I had to learn, especially when I lost weight. I started filling myself. We ain't going to talk about that on this episode.
You go through things, and you hope that when you go through things, you learn from it. You just keep going through it. And I know people who just keep going through the same dang thing you like, bro, when are you going to get it? It's like, man, I'm here trying to help you. You got other people trying to help you.
We're trying to give you the tools. We're trying to give you the nuggets. Like, if you do this, you will get this. If you do this, you will for sure get this. And you won't see the life that you want to see, but yet people just don't get it. And me, somebody who's super disciplined, somebody who stand on integrity, somebody who works hard as heck and realizes that what you could get from all those things, seeing people who don't do those things, I'm going to be honest, it's irritating because it's like, I want more for your life than you want for yourself, and as long as I want more for your life than you want for yourself, then there's no way you could be successful.
[00:41:48] Speaker A: Right? That's definitely understood.
And as we get ready to close this out, what I will say about that is that the thing that bothers you the most is the thing that you're called to do. So that's why you're doing what you're doing now, right?
Even though it irritates you.
If only one catches a hold of what we say, that's what matters, right? What jesus say about the one sheep leaving the 99 to go get the one sheep. That's the mentality we have to have, is we need to just be able to touch one person, and that one person can touch another person, and it spreads right. So again, hopefully we've given you a good level set and a mindset around discipline, why it's necessary, why it's important where you can get, if you exercise the discipline right, you can grow your physical fitness, you can grow your business, you can grow your spiritual man, you can grow your relationship.
If you manage your finances well, you can grow your finances. Everybody that you see that has been successful, most of them are disciplined. Some have been given money, but a lot had to work to get it, and it took discipline. And the thing about being disciplined is if you can be disciplined, you set yourself above about 95% of the population. I would say probably 10% of the population, maybe 10% of the population is discipline. The other 90 cent is just going through life, allowing life to happen. The discipline make life happen. The unprepared give what life gives them. So in know, we always give that word of the day or that closing remarks. Give us some closing remarks. Kevon Lee. Mr. Empowers the world, definitely.
[00:43:42] Speaker B: And so I said it at the beginning of the show is conquer yourself. I want you to worry about that. I want you to work on that. Conquer yourself, because there's some things that you have, but there's some vices you have. Maybe you smoke too much, maybe you drink too much. Maybe you party too much. Maybe you do. I don't know. You cheat on your girl too much. I don't know what the heck it is. But conquering yourself, especially the flesh, the flesh wants to do what the flesh wants to do, right? But as a man, a man is the most powerful source, right? Because a woman, if you are a powerful man, a woman will follow you. I promise you, a woman will submit to you. A woman will say, okay, you think this is best? Okay.
My wife, when it comes to big decisions, she's like, okay, you think that's good, then let's do it. It's because she sees who I am and what I stand for and also that I had conquered myself, right? And I'm still working on things. But when I say that, it's like I'm disciplined enough that she don't have to worry about me doing things out here. She don't have to worry about me running the streets or at another girl house.
When I went to Houston for four days, she didn't have to worry about. I went down there to go to church, too. I stayed an extra day to go to church. That's the type of man I am, and that's the type of man I want to be. Right? And so for all the men who are listening here, conquer yourself. Can you conquer yourself? I don't want you to wait ten extra years. I want you to wait 20 more years. I want you to conquer yourself. Now, can you do that?
[00:45:11] Speaker A: Yeah. That's good, man. That is good. I think you've really set the bar for people in your age demographic and you've given them something to think about. And you could be the catalyst of starting a movement of young men that really change the world. And so my closing remarks is, I have these principles that I live by, and they're based on the Bible. So there are four principles that God gave Adam in Genesis. It's Genesis one and 28. And those principles are to be fruitful, to multiply, subdue and have dominion. You have to subdue means control yourself. That is discipline, right?
So remember that if you live by those four principles of being fruitful, multiplying, subduing and having dominion, I ain't talking about fruitful, having more children. Fruitful is producing more of what God is giving you, right?
So you can be fruitful and then God can multiply it. But remember this, success does not come from no pie in the sky thinking.
It's the result of doing something each and every day that will add to your overall excellence. Discipline is excellence. If you say that you serve God and you are a child of the king, you should be moving in excellence. You cannot be excellent without a lack of discipline, without no self discipline.
Remember, discipline is the key that can unlock any door for your future, for your goals. Where God wants you to be, who he's designed you to be, is all on the other side of discipline.
So I am cymister 80 20.
You can follow me on IG at IM 80 20 nation. My YouTube channel is Carlton Young or Im 80 20 nation. And go check my website out. It's www.carltonyung.com. And now we're going to pass it over to Kevon as we close this episode out. We appreciate you guys for listening. Give them your information, Kevon, where they can follow you and see some of those amazing speeches and some of those amazing words that you be dropping on these young, impressionable minds.
[00:47:33] Speaker B: Definitely, man. So you can follow me at Kevine empowers. That's across the board. That's YouTube, that's Instagram. Those are the main ones I use. I don't use Twitter too much. I use Facebook. So you can find me on there. Kevon empowers. My website is kevonlee.com. Super simple Kevon l e e.com. That's where you find me. Anybody who's listening to this and you have never been in contact with me, just reach out, and I promise you I'll get back to you. It might not be the same day, but I will get back to you because I truly believe that human connection is the strongest thing. And so, again, we will be back. This is episode three. We will be back because we got so much knowledge, so much gems to drop on you. And this is the elevated mindset podcast, and we out on it's.
